Extraordinary Days Require Exceptional Invitations

Design, Paper & Theme

Design – General

  • There is no standard etiquette for a Bar or Bat Mitzvah invitation. There are endless ways to design one. Creativity, creativity, creativity, the Doc always says. There is great room for personalization in invitation design, so enjoy it! 
  • To feed your creativity, perform a Google Images search for “Bar mitzvah Invitations . Many examples are there to feed your inspiration!
  • Check invitation books of vendors. Take things away, add others, and make it your own.
  • Fit the invitation with the theme, spirit and colors of your BM. If you have a theme or color scheme in mind, look for invitations that echo this. Don’t forget also to match the envelope print, ink color and design to the invitation.
  • Doctor Simcha gets romantic: have a crocheted flower in red attached to the invitation’s top left.


  • The paper you select should echo the tenor of the simcha: heavyweight paper with a fine finish to denote a decorous tone; handcrafted parchment with unfinished edges and raffia binding for a natural celebration; or a metallic finish with sparkly ink for a flashy feel. 
  • You should be able to find a wide array of suitable papers, plain or variously paneled, and be able to distinguish your personal style through the large selection of beautiful typestyles.
  • The traditional invitation is elegantly simple. It usually uses black ink printed on a heavy white or cream colored card.
  • The card may be flat or folded with the printing traditionally on the front. In the flat card, the page contains all the information required. When the card is folded, the inner side usually contains the invitation. The top face has an inscription with an embossed logo, a small sketch, a biblical verse with the BM name and so on.
  • Want to get a little original and free-spirited? Change the shape of things. Try a horizontal bi-fold, a tri-color tri-fold, or a thematic z-fold. Add a die-cut window that peeks into the text, or a pocket to hold the response card.


  • There are many themes that you may choose to highlight in your invitation. Here are just a few suggestions: 
    • traditional religious themes – tallit, torah, star of David, skyline of Jerusalem, lions and more; 
    • the qualities and hobbies of the BM boy or girl;
    • an upcoming holiday at the time of the year;
    • Israel and aliyah;
    • An image of the BM girl or boy (for this choice check personalized Bar Mitzvah invitations at Picture Me Perfect);
    • Other personal issues of great significance to the family.