DoctorSimcha.com’s Bar Mitzvah Planning Forum

Hmmm…. There are many areas to discuss here. The very first thing… there is no “Bar Mitzvah” as such, apart from when the boy becomes 13, when he becomes subject of commandments.
Second thing, Bar/Bat Mitzvah is used as an incentive for families so that their children can be educated. You can get him a tutorial, but they will only teach him shortcuts without getting him to connect to his roots. A tutorial will cost you minimum 25-75 dollars per hour. Also, it cannot reach up to the standards of education given by the family since beginning. Of course you can have a party of him becoming a Jewish adult, but once the incentive of the party is gone, I doubt he will want to learn more about his heritage.